On the latest episode of We Got Balls, Scott and Chris explore what makes the holidays so challenging for people with a history of trauma. They also chat about why Black Friday is one of the top acting out days of the year, why we dissociate and the myriad of ways we go about it, and how we can be kind to ourselves and set boundaries.

In 6th grade, I recall a teacher having me stay after class because I couldn’t understand the math problem that the rest of the class had figured out how to solve. She showed me and showed me again, but I couldn’t repeat her process. At her wits end, she threw her hands up in frustration and said, “Well Derek, if you don’t understand it at this point I don’t know what to tell you.”  She didn’t know that I was regularly visiting with Child Protective Services after school and

When it came time to choose a college major, I remember going through the entire catalog one-by-one looking for something that felt right or caught my eye. I was nearly in tears by the end, feeling that I had no purpose or interests. I often felt like others were born with talents or interests that led them naturally where they were supposed to go and I wasn’t. Feelings of aimlessness and meaninglessness are staple meals in the diet of a person who carries the wounds of traum

Listen in as Scott and Chris chat with Adam Young, host of The Place We Find Ourselves Podcast and author of Make Sense of Your Story: Why Engaging Your Past with Kindness Changes Everything. There is so much good to take away from this conversation. We hear Adam Young share his own story of how he was 35 years old before he was first confronted with the abuse he endured. We hear about why engaging our sexual brokenness and addiction without engaging our family or origin sto